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cervical dilation 101: frequently asked questions March 11, 2007

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What is the cervix? The cervix is the bottom part or neck of the uterus. The cervix opens during labor so the baby may pass through the womb into the birth canal and be born.

What is effacement? Effacement is the thinning and softening of the cervix which is measured in percentages. Usually the cervix is long, hard, and closed, and at this point the effacement would be at 0%. Towards the end of pregnancy, Braxton Hicks contractions occur (sometimes you aren’t aware that you’re having contractions) which start this effacement process. Once the cervix starts to efface, then it can start to dilate too. As effacement continues, the cervix softens, becomes mushy, and then slippery. When fully effaced at 100%, the cervix has virtually disappeared against the baby’s head.

What is dilation? Dilation is the opening up of the cervix and is measured in centimeters. A fingertip dilated means about 1 centimeter dilated. Full dilation is 10 centimeters. Once full dilation occurs, the cervix is completely gone and over the baby’s head, and the mother may push the baby out to be born.

What causes the cervix to change? The uterus is a muscle that contracts or tightens. During a contraction, the baby’s head (or other presenting part), pushes down on your cervix, causing it to dilate and efface.

Why does backward dilation sometimes happen and is it normal? First of all, yes it’s normal and is not something to be worried about. Backwards dilation can occur if the baby’s head isn’t pressing as hard on your cervix as it once was. If your labor slows down and you’re not having any contractions, the cervix can close up a little. Don’t worry, once contractions pick up, you’ll soon be dilating again. A change in dilation can occur when someone new is checking your cervix. One nurse’s five cm dilated, 85% effaced may be another nurse’s six cm dilated, 80% effaced.

Feel free to ask a question and then check back later for an answer, but please don’t ask me when I think you are going to have your baby. You will find additional clarification of when your labor may start by reading my other two articles on dilation linked below. I repeat do not ask me when I think you might go into labor. Don’t ask me things because I have no idea.  Thanks for your consideration.   What does being 2 centimeters dilated mean?

How long does it take the cervix to dilate 5 centimeters?
For more articles about pregnancy and birth, please refer to my welcome page.

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1. sandra - April 28, 2007

I am 30 weeks pregnant and my cervix is starting to soften is this okay. This is also my fourth child. I have been having a lot of pressure and difficulty walking.

It’s not unusual that your cervix is starting to soften at this point especially since this is your fourth baby. To relieve the pressure, get in hands and knees position–lean on a birth ball, chair, or couch. To further relieve the pressure in the hands and knees position, put your head down on a pillow. With your head and shoulders down and butt up higher, this brings the weight of the baby off your cervix. You’ll probably want to get into these positions several times a day for a few minutes as you feel the need. ~Guinever

2. Lynne - June 6, 2007

Why do they say you have to have contractions in order to start dialating. When I went to the hospital with my son by ambulance because of a separated placenta they said at 2am that I was 3cm dialated but I never experienced contractions until 3am. Can you have contractions but not feel them at all. I am 35 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and I’m sure that I’ve been dropped for almost 2weeks. I see my OB in 2 days, I’ve been getting really weird pains/tingly type in my vagina and I’m getting really anxious about everything, I’m even nesting right now cleaning my house top to bottom like I did with my first daughter(I only experienced this with her) and I was 3 weeks early with her. I go early with all my children. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for being so long winded.


To answer your question, yes, some women have contractions and don’t feel them and aren’t aware that the uterus is contracting. This is perfectly normal. You obviously have experienced this. Even though women feel contractions differently, I’m not sure the tingly type pain you’re describing are contractions. I would definitely ask your OB about them since you sound a little worried. With the baby so low, you could be feeling the baby tickling you with a hand, foot, or elbow. Hope this helps, Guinever

3. jemia - July 8, 2007

i am 33 weeks pregnant with twins and dialated 2 cent. my contractions are 1-3 min apart and i have lost my mucous plug. what can i do to speed thing up?

At only 33 weeks along, your babies would benefit from at least a couple more weeks in the womb. Please call your medical caregiver immediately and ask them what you should do. Normal procedure would be for you to have steroid shots to help develop the babys’ lungs. At this point, you probably shouldn’t be trying to speed your labor up. The goal now with your twins would be to stay pregnant as long as possible unless you have a medical problem that would be dangerous for you to remain pregnant as determined by your doctor. Optimal lung development hasn’t occurred yet at only 33 weeks gestation. If your babies were to be born today, they would not be healthy newborns who you could take home after the normal 2 days recovery time in the hospital (or 4 days for a cesarean) . Let me know how it goes. ~Guinever

4. Judy - July 13, 2007

Hi, I am 34 and 1/2 weeks pregnant, although my baby is measuring 6 days older. Does this usually mean the date is off? He weighed 4.9 pounds at 32 weeks and as I have read, that is bigger than usual for 32 weeks? Also, I was dialated 1 cm at 32 weeks and since then I have had yucky contractions off and on but they always stop after 4 or 5 hours. I have a lot of pressure in my pelvis, as the baby dropped a couple of weeks ago and my lower back always contracts with my stomach. Does this sound familiar because I am going nuts wondering when I could be delivering this baby?


Judy, Ultrasound does not measure accurately the baby’s weight. Ultrasound is good for dating pregnancies only in the first trimester and you are well past that. Please note that the due date is only an estimation and is based on the first day of your last period. If you didn’t have a regular, 28 day cycle for the month you conceived, your baby could be older or younger. Due dates give just a general idea of when a woman might be having a baby. As far as having pressure and contractions, these are all good things that are preparing your body to give birth in the coming weeks. You’re only 34 weeks along. Ideally, you won’t give birth for a few more weeks for the baby’s optimal growth and development. The back pain is a good indicator of your baby being in a posterior position. To help your baby move into the more optimal anterior position, I suggest you refer to the spinning babies website. ~Guinever

5. Alli - July 14, 2007

I am 37 weeks along and have been having lots of cramps and contractions but nothing that lasts, so I have been researching on how to check my own cervix and when I did, it felt soft and squishy and pretty short. I could get a finger in but inside the squishy part it felt like there was a rubberband around the inside. Could you explain this to me?


Alli, Checking the cervix for dilation and effacement is a learned skill. As a doula and childbirth educator, I do not have any training and skills in this area. I suggest you ask your medical care provider. However, a midwife confirmed for me that the part of your cervix that feels like a rubberband is just part of your cervix that still has some thinning out to do. ~Guinever


6. Emily - July 17, 2007

I am 31 weeks along with my second child, i went in to the hospital for back pains and lower cramps in my stomach, they determined it was a UTI, but checked me anyways and the nurse said i was one cm dilated already that was all she said and i was sent home does this mean i will deliver a bit earlier than thought or what?


Being one centimeter dilated now at 31 weeks along in your pregnancy does not indicate or guarantee that you will deliver early. Women can walk around dilated for many weeks. I’m glad you had an UTI that can be treated rather than premature labor. ~Guinever

7. Angela - July 19, 2007

I was told 3 days ago that I was 2 cm and 50% effaced and that the baby has engaged. I started having contractions about 20 min after my exam. They lasted for about 3 hours and were 3-4 min apart and lasting around a min to a min and a half each. Then all of a sudden they stopped. I have had a few more in the last few days but no sign of them becoming regular. I have had braxton hicks contractions for over a month and a half and these ones felt different. Just like the contractions I had when I was in labour with my daughter. I tried finding my cervix last night but everything just seemed so soft and mooshy in there and I couldn’t find it. I know it is a trained skill to be able to find it and understand it but generally how far up into the vaginal cavity is it?


Dear Angela, It’s pretty common to start having contractions after an exam because touching the cervix can result in hormones being released. To answer your question about how far up the cervix is, it varies. Sometimes, it could be just right there inside the opening, but usually you have to go hunting around for it. The cervix can be hard to find especially if you’ve never felt the cervix and don’t know what you’re feeling around for. The cervix can be posterior, meaning the opening is toward your back and is hard to reach even for your doctor, midwife, or nurse. Even when you’re not pregnant, the cervix migrates due to hormonal changes during the monthly cycle. So to answer your question, there isn’t a fixed place that the cervix can be found. ~Guinever

8. Carla Contreras - July 24, 2007

I don’t know when I conceived but now I’m 27 weeks and the baby is measuring at 33 weeks. I’m not due until October. I have only gained 5 pounds. Is the baby going to be born big and possibly induced or C-section. This is my second pregnancy, my first I was past due and induced plus he weighed 8lbs and 10ozs.
Is this normal and will I continue to have this problem if I decide to have another?


Dear Carla, There are a few reasons that could contribute to your measuring so off your due date. You say you don’t know when you conceived, but then you say you’re 27 weeks along. If you don’t know the first day of your last period plus you didn’t have a first trimester ultra-sound to date the pregnancy, it could be possible that your estimated due date is incorrect. Another reason you could be measuring big is because of lots of extra amniotic fluid. The baby’s position in your womb could also affect the fundal height measurement. Do you have diabetes–this can cause a bigger than normal baby. Did your doctor discuss with you this six week discrepancy in your measurement and your due date and the possible causes? If not, you should definitely talk with your doctor about it during your next appointment.

Are you eating healthy? A five pound weight gain would only be ok if you are getting all the nutrients that you need. Protein (meats and nuts, etc), vegetables–all kinds and colors, whole grains, fruits, and dairy should all be a part of your weekly diet.

I have no idea if you will be induced or have a c-section. That is between you and your medical caregiver. Please realize that your first baby at eight pounds, 10 ounces was NOT too big. Sounds very healthy. ~Guinever

9. Jen - July 25, 2007

I am 31 weeks 6 days dilated to 2 and 50% effaced. This is my 4th pregnancy, my 10 year old was 36 weeks, my 4 year old was 37 weeks, and my 2 year old was 34 weeks. I have not really had any contractions, I do not have incompetent cervix. Is this normal or a sign that I’m going to have trouble with this one too?


Dear Jen, Being 2cm dilated with a fourth baby at your point in pregnancy is not unusual and not normally a cause for concern, BUT with your past history of delivering early, it could indicate that you might be going early again. Have you sat down and talked with your care provider about the probable causes of your previous pre-term labors? Sometimes, a woman does everything right and is healthy and there really is no cause. But there are things such as an unhealthy diet, stress, smoking, drinking, environmental hazards and drug use that can contribute to pre-term labor.

Also, has your labor always started with your water breaking first? If yes, taking vitamin C every day and getting adequate protein (about 80 grams everyday) helps to build a strong amniotic sac that is less prone to premature rupture of membranes. ~Guinever

10. Kim - July 26, 2007

I am 40 weeks and this is my 3 child my others are all 5 years apart in age. My question is my cervix has not dropped down and is not dilateing. What is causing this to happen? I never had this with my other children.


Dear Kim, Please remember that your due date is only an approximation of when your baby will be born. Sometimes it takes longer than 40 weeks for you and your baby to be ready for labor and birth. One possibility is that your baby is not in the most optimal position for birth. If the baby is breech or posterior (head down but facing up), then the head doesn’t put as much pressure on the cervix as needed for dilation. Also, are you doing things to encourage contractions like walking and having sex? ~Guinever

11. amanda - July 27, 2007

im 39 weeks and 2 day whith my second baby i went to the doctor 2 days ago n they said in thinning out n im 1 cm dailated she also said with your second baby u dont walk around dailated for week with my son i was only 16 n was in labor for only 4 1/2 hours i was just woundering if you think my baby is going to come soon

Dear Amanda, It sounds like you will be having a baby sometime in the next couple weeks. Perhaps you misunderstood what your doctor told you. It is very common for pregnant women to walk around dilated for days and even weeks. ~Guinever

12. Alli - July 27, 2007

I had a doctor appt on Monday he said I was 2cm dialated and 50% effaced. After the visit I started having contractions and I lost my mucus plug over a couple of days. Well, since then I have been having lots of braxton hicks just like before but nothing is happening. I was wondering if the mucus plug meant I dialated further? Also, I was thinking of trying 2TBL of castor oil today to try and get things moving. I am having a horrible time sleeping, I stop breathing and wake up gasping for air. This really scares me. I also have been vomiting in my mouth at night when I am sleeping. Doctor is not worried about it at all but I feel like the stopping breathing affects my baby as she was kicking more than normal when this was going on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.


Alli, Did you tell your doc about your “stop breathing” episodes? This seems alarming to me and a cause for concern. As your cervix opens, yes, you can sometimes lose your mucous plug as your cervix dilates. So yes, it is possible that you are dilated more than you were on Monday. I’m assuming that the vomiting and gasping for air are happening at the same time? Is it acidic? If yes, it’s probably heartburn or acid reflux. This can be caused by your hormones. The same hormones that soften and loosen your pelvis in preparation for birth also work on other parts of your body as well. So the spinchter that helps to keep acid where its supposed to can soften and not work properly and so the acid comes back up in your throat. This problem should fix itself after you have your baby. Sleep sitting up or mostly sitting up, propped up with lots of pillows. Hang in there. No one has ever been pregnant forever. You will meet your baby soon.
~Blessings, Guinever

13. Christina - July 27, 2007

I am 37 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and today I went to the doctor. He said I am 1 and 1/2 centimeters dialated and “flattening out” What does this mean? This is my second child, the first I delivered at 33 weeks due to my water breaking. Also, he said the my cervix was posterior. I know you don’t have a crystal ball, but does any of this info give you some insight as to when I might deliver? I guess I have been having some contractions, although they don’t seem like the ones that I remember from my first pregnancy. They don’t ease on and ease off, it is more like a ton of pressure really low in my pelvis and then it just goes away. It reminds me more of his head pressing down. Any ideas?


Dear Christina, I have never heard the term, “flattening out” as it relates to the cervix, but I suspect he is referring to effacement or thinning which I have explained in this article. Your cervix being posterior is very normal and it will eventually come down. There really is no way to know for sure when you will go into labor. What you are experiencing is typical of the last few weeks of pregnancy. You could have your baby tonight or in another month or somewhere in between. ~Guinever

14. Danielle - July 27, 2007

I was told a few days ago by my doctor that I’m 2cm dilated. I haven’t lost my mucous plug (atleast that i’ve noticed) and I was just wondering how safe castor oil is to speed up the process? If its unsafe what can I do besides walking?

Danielle, please refer to this website for information regarding castor oil. ~Guinever

15. Alli - July 27, 2007

Guinever,
Yes I did tell him about my stopping breathing and he just said that after the baby comes if it does not stop then I should go to a sleep clinic. The acid coming up in my mouth happens at a different time not when I stop breathing. I will be 39 weeks in 2 days and this is my fourth baby. The last two were overdue by 7 days and 10 days I was induced with them. I was hoping to go into labor on my own this time. My last baby was 9 lbs and now I am very afraid that this one is even larger. When I ask my doctor he is very vague he just says the baby is not to big for me. Anyway, I have been reading up on castor oil and it seems like it might be the ticket for me but I am concerned about how much to take and the association between meconium. Thanks.


Dear Alli, It makes sense and it’s logical that castor oil might stimulate baby’s bowels like it does for mom, but there isn’t any evidence or clinical studies to support that conclusion that I know of. Please read this midwife’s perspective on castor oil for another view point. (that castor oil does not cause mec in the baby)

I do not know of anyone who took castor oil whose baby passed meconium. But I have been at births where there was meconium and have also heard birth stories where meconium was passed. Meconium usually appears with a baby in distress like a mom with high blood pressure or baby not tolerating high doses of pitocin or a baby who has postdates, etc. Let me know how it goes! Blessings, Guinever

16. amanda - July 27, 2007

ok thanks but another question: today i passed clear mucus. i have been having pain all day whats going on?


Amanda, you didn’t describe your pain. If you have been having “pain” that lasts a few seconds at a time all day long, that sounds like early labor. As labor progresses the contractions get longer and stronger and closer together. When you are in active labor, you will definitely know that you are in labor. Just try to relax now and get some sleep. ~Birthing blessings, Guinever

17. amanda - July 27, 2007

ok thanks sorry bout not describing my pain they r coming about every 8 mins n last 1 to 1 1/2 min and i also have another question to ask you to see if u can help me on this for the past 3 weeks when i go to sleep and during the day my arms and hands have been going numb and it is killing me the past week I have only been able to get like 2 - 3 hours of sleep a day nothing seems to be helping me I have tried hand braces and it does not work I have been drinking alot of cold water like 10 glasses a day but nothing seems to help me I just wish I can sleep do you have anything that might be able to help me


Dear Amanda, I think that the numbness you are experiencing will go away once you have your baby. If it doesn’t, definitely seek a doctor’s help. I don’t really know what to tell you except to just try different sleeping positions. Try not to put any weight on your hands and arms. you could try sleeping in an armchair with pillows under your arms if necessary for added support. ~Guinever

18. Danielle - July 28, 2007

I have told you that i’m 2 centimeters dilated, but last night i started having a small amount of what appeared to be bloody show. It has a brownish tint to it, but there isn’t a lot so i know there isn’t a problem. i’m just not sure what exactly the brown tint is and what it means. (in the past 24 hours i have not have sex and i have not had an internal exam) can you help me out?


Dear Danielle, You’re right, “it’s bloody show.” The brown tint is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. It’s just part of your mucous plug letting go and coming out. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. You won’t be pregnant much longer by the sound of it! ~Blessings, Guinever


19. BHA - July 30, 2007

Hi! I’m 37 weeks and was told at my last appointment that I am a good centimeter dilated and 75% effaced. She said the baby’s position was great as well. What is more important in terms of timing/predicting how long I have left to go…dilation or effacement? Thanks!


Dear Hilary, The dilation and effacement work together. First you have to efface a little, then you will start dilating. Normally, you can’t go past 5 cm dilated until you’re at least 50% effaced. Since you’re already past that, you’ll have a good jumpstart on continuing to dilate once your labor starts. Have you read my other two articles on dilation? The information might be helpful for you.
What does being 2 centimeters dilated mean?

How long does it take the cervix to dilate 5 centimeters?


20. amanda - July 30, 2007

heyy I talked to my mother andshe wanted me to ask you a question when I go pee for the last 2 days I have been passing mucus in the toliet and my mother thinks it can be my water leaking is that possible or can u tell me what that is from thanks


Dear Amanda,
When amniotic fluid leaks, you can’t control the flow like you can control the flow of urine. So if you’re only passing mucous when you’re in the bathroom, then it is unlikely that your fluid is leaking. If you have to wear pads or your clothes are getting wet, then it could be your fluid. Hope this helps, Guinever

21. amanda - July 30, 2007

OK THANKS YES IT HELPED I HAVE TO WEAR PAD BECAUSE I LEAKED AND i HAVE ONE MORE QUESTION i HAVE BEEN HAVING SHARP PAINS EVERYDAY WHEN U R DAILATING CAN U FEEL PAIN FROM IT

Um yes, you can feel pain from dilating. Labor is VERY HARD work! Some people describe their contractions as “sharp pains” but a contraction should build gradually in strength, stay at the peak (most painful) for several seconds and then ease off. Contractions come and go. In other words, it hurts for a minute or so then you have time in between the contractions where there is no pain. If this isn’t the type of “pain” you’re experiencing, then you let your doctor know what is going on. Also, did your doc want you to call if your water broke?

22. amanda - July 30, 2007

YEAH BUT THATS THE THING I GO SEE HIM TOMORROW N IM NOT SURE IF MY WATER BROKE I JUST KEEP GETT SHARP PAIN N ALOT OF MUCUS N I NO I DIALED MORE BECAUSE i FEEL ALOT MORE OPEN UP THERE THEN WHEN I WENT TO THE DOCTOR IT IS JUST i HAVE BEEN HAVING PAIN EVERYDAY N I NO IT IS THE START OF LABOR WRITE ME BACK IF U CAN


Just tell your doctor everything at your appointment today. They can test to see if your water is broken with a special pH strip

23. megan - July 31, 2007

hi. i am 28 weeks pregnant with twins. at my ob appt yesterday i was dilated one centimeter. i am nervous. this is my third pregnancy and my doctor says she doesn’t think i am in preterm labor. she said to take it easy at home. i am having some braxton hix every now and then, nothing regular. is it normal to be dilated one already or does this mean i will probably deliver early? she said my cervix was still nice and long.


Dear Megan, It’s good that your cervix is still long. I would definitely follow your doc’s advice and take it easy. If you find yourself having lots of the braxton hicks, get lots of rest. Also, make sure you’re drinking plenty of water. Not drinking enough fluids can cause contractions. ~Guinever

24. Albina - July 31, 2007

Guinever,
My LPM was 0n 20th of December 2006 and my cycle is almost 28-30 days.By date 17th of July I measured 29weeks+of gestation.On 31 July I measured 30 weeks.Is this a problem?And my due date is 1 Oct 2007 but I’ll have a C-section so it will be on 17 th of September.
This is my second pregnancy, I have a daughter which is six year old and she’s born at 42 weeks by forceps.
But I cant stay on my feet because I feel too tired, it doesn’t happen all the days.Why does this happen?I also noticed that when i walk around for some hours i have a lot of vaginal discharges, and usually they become darker then normally. Is this a problem?
Does this mean that I should have extra rest?(I’m not having sex for a lot period of time 4months since my husband is not here, and no internal examinations).
Thank you Albina.


Dear Albina, It sounds like you might want to get more rest during the day. Try to lie down a few times each day. You should ask your doc about the changes in discharge the next time you go in. I’m not following you and your dates and measurements, but its usually ok to vary by a couple weeks because the amount of amniotic fluid and baby’s position can affectthe fundal height. ~Blessings, Guinever

25. jessica - July 31, 2007

hi im 7mths pregnant soon to be 8 next week and since i was 5 and a half months i was having lower back pains and couldnt hardly walk. i went to the doctor but he told me it was normal. but i feel its not. now that im 7 mnths i still have the pain when i walk and when im layin down i cant hardly get up at times. i get alot of pressure on my stomach and my stomach get very hard at times and i get very tired for no reason at all. what should i do should i see another doctor for a second opinion or is it normal for me to feel this way?


Dear Jessica, if you’re not comfortable with your doctor and you feel like he’s dismissing your concerns, find someone who will listen to you. With that said, there are many discomforts during pregnancy. You do have a reason to be tired–you’re pregnant! You might want to be checked out by a physical therapist who works with pregnant ladies about that back pain. Some pain is normal but not being able to get up or it hurts so bad that you can hardly walk–well, that’s not normal. You may have a back problem that has been compounded with the growing weight of the baby. I think you seeking another opinion is a good idea. You might also want to look into massage therapy–find someone who specializes in prenatal massage. I hope you get to feeling better soon, Guinever

26. Christina - July 31, 2007

Can you still have sex if you have begun to dilate? 1 or 2 centimeters?


yes, just as long as your water is not broken. ~Guinever

27. Bailey - August 1, 2007

hi I am 36 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and I am 3 centimeters dialated. How long do you think it will take for labor to begin?


Dear Bailey, I really have no idea when your labor might start. It sounds like it could be any day in the next 5 weeks. Hope you have a great birth, Guinever

28. Amanda - August 2, 2007

Hi. I am supposedly 36 weeks, 5 days today. I say supposedly because this is exactly how far along I was with my first son when he was born. After he came, my midwife told me he was full-term. My husband and I just make small babies.

Anyway - yesterday I saw my midwife and asked her to check my cervix, as two nights before my baby dropped and I felt him hit my cervix a couple times. The next morning I had a little bloody show.

She checked me and said I was 4-5cm dilated, 80% effaced, and that the baby was at Station 0. This is exactly how things progressed with my first son 7.5 years ago. With one difference - when I was checked at this stage with my first son and she found I was 5cm dilated, she sent me in to the hospital. Nothing happened that night, so she broke my water the next morning at 10:30 and he was born at 3:30. This time, I was told to wait and see.

So, my question is: how long do you think it may be before this one enters the world? I can tell I’m having contractions, and they are not just BH, but they are so mild I can’t really time them. With my first son I didn’t even feel my contractions until after she broke my water.

I figure it won’t be too long now, but just wanted your opinion. Thanks.


Dear Amanda, it sounds like you could go into labor at anytime. Time will tell. Could be tonight or could be next week or not for another month. I don’t think you’ll have to wait a whole month, though. Sorry, I can’t be of more help to you. I just can’t predict when someone will go into labor. I hope it is soon. It sounds like you’re ready to have this baby. ~birthing blessings, Guinever

29. Lauren - August 2, 2007

Hi Guinever,

Thank you for such a great web site. I am 38 weeks pregnant with my first child. My internal exam at 37.5 weeks revealed that the baby’s head is engaged and my cervix has rotated/tilted into the proper position for childbirth; no dilation yet. I’ve had a few labor-like contractions in the past week, some before the exam, and painless Braxton Hicks contractions for a long time before that. During the past two weeks, the baby’s head has occasionally felt like it’s about to come out of my cervix — a localized pressure that lasts about 10 minutes at a time and makes me walk funny! Last night I woke up with intense period-like cramps; this morning I had a stomach ache (but was still hungry — strange.) This morning I’ve had lots of brown-tinged mucusy discharge, but only on toilet tissue, not pantiliners. I’d love any feedback you might offer. We realize there’s no way to anticipate the timing with certainty, but this is all so new to us and your thoughts would be much appreciated. When I talked to my husband and mentioned the above, he wanted to come home from work immediately. I told him it still could be days or weeks! He was surprised to hear this — and like any soon-to-be-first-time-dad, remains a bit nervous about making sure he’s present for the real thing! Anyway, thanks in advance for your comments and please keep up the good and valuable work.


Dear Lauren, It sounds like you’re getting closer to having your baby. Brown tinged mucous is ok, but if it turns bright red, get checked out right away by your doctor or midwife. Also, I’m not sure what you mean by cramps. If you’re having constant pain, you should ask your care provider. But if its “intense cramps” that last about a minute and come and go, these are normal, desirable contractions and nothing to be concerned about. ~Blessings, Guinever

30. Naomi - August 2, 2007

Hello,

I’m almost 28 weeks pregnant and just checked my cervix (out of curiousity) and it’s very soft. I was tracking my temp and cervical changes prior to getting pregnant and I’ve never felt it this soft. I have been having a few BH’s a day (nothing abnormal) and otherwise feel great. I have a midwifery appt next week, but am wondering if I should call them before then or if there’s no cause for concern. Thanks.


Dear Naomi, if it would set your mind at ease to call your midwife and be checked out before your next scheduled appointment, you could do that. As I was working on the answer to your question, my reply became longer and longer, so I wrote a new article. Please refer to help! I’m having Braxton Hicks contractions: is this ok?~Guinever


31. Amanda - August 2, 2007

Well, I suppose I’ll just have to wait and see. I’m thinking it should be any day now!

32. summer nunn - August 2, 2007

I am 37 weeks and haven’t started to dialate. Is there anything i can do to move this process along?


Dear Summer, Walking, sex, and eating spicy food can all help to encourage labor. ~Guinever

33. juby - August 2, 2007

I’m almost 38 weeks, 1 cm dilated and 80% effaced as my appt on Tuesday 7/31. Last Tuesday I was 1 cm and 50% effaced so the effacement has progressed some. I have a lot of lower abdominal cramping, like I’m going to start my period and back aches and I’m miserable. The doctor said he thinks I’ll make it to my next appt, 8/7, seeing me only lasting another week tops. My first child was 10 days early (due 7/14 had her 7/4). I’m due 8/18 with this one. Do I have a pretty good chance of going into labor soon? I’m also having a lot of thin discharge, cloudy white.


Dear Juby, I would say that yes, you have a pretty good chance of going into labor soon. Tonight, tomorrow, next week. No one can know for sure. ~birthing blessings, Guinever


34. Lauren - August 3, 2007

Hi Guinever,

Just an update: I lost my mucus plug last night, and have been experiencing irregular contractions, loose stools, and lots of downward cervical pressure. You may remember from my earlier e-mail that the baby’s head had engaged. This morning my OB says that my cervix (which had already rotated into the proper position) has begun to ripen and I’m now in prodromal labor. He suspects I’ll be able to keep my Monday morning appointment with him, but says it’s all hard to say and the baby could be here this weekend. So things are very exciting! I’m in my 39th week. Thanks again for helping so many people!


Dear Lauren, Please try to get as much rest as possible. If your prodromal labor seems to drag on and on, don’t be discouraged. You’re going to have your baby soon. ~Blessings, Guinever

35. NELL - August 4, 2007

I’m 38 weeks pregnant and 4 days. I wanted to know if you can feel your cervix dialating, because when I pee sometimes I see something that looks kinda like spit in the toilet…I’m guessing some of my mucas plug but I’m not sure. ..if there’s anything you can tell my that would be great because my doctors not helping me at all.


Dear Nell, it sounds like you are losing your mucous plug. You can’t really feel your cervix dilating, per se, but you can feel pressure and having Braxton hicks contractions certainly helps it to thin and dilate. hope this helps, Guinever

36. Christina - August 4, 2007

I am 38 weeks pregnant and when I went to the doctor on Thursday I was 2 centimetes dilated, 50% effaced, and the baby was at a -2 station. The doctor asked if I was having any contractions, but I am unsure. From what I remember of my first baby, they ease on and ease off. This time it is just a minute or two of cramping and pressure really low in my pelvis. It doesn’t seem to start at the top of my uterus and radiate down. What does this mean? Also, I have been having a small amount of brownish discharge. Do you think I will make it to my next appt. on Tues? Or could it be sooner?


Dear Christina, Contractions can feel a lot of different ways. You can feel them up front or in your back or an internal downward pressure. Your pressure and cramping sound like contractions to me. I do not know exactly when you will have your baby, but it sounds like you are ready and could go into labor at anytime. ~Blessings, Guinever

37. Danielle - August 4, 2007

I’m going completely insane!! I will be 39 weeks on tuesday. Last Tuesday i went to the hospital because i was contracting every three minutes. The contractions dilated me to 3 and i was 80% effaced, then it all stopped. I have continued to have pains since then and nothing will put me into labor. I did castor oil, and I have been walking every night. I don’t know what else i can do? I was also wondering what the chances are that my doctor would induce me soon? I am not sleeping and I am in a lot of pain. I’m not really sure what to do with myself right now, help!


Dear Danielle, It sounds like you’re ready to have your baby. Soon, you will go into labor for real. I have no idea if your doctor will induce you. Did you ask? I’m not a big fan of inductions. Blessings, Guinever

38. cathy - August 5, 2007

I am full term and have been checking my cervix for a couple of weeks. It has been about 2cm dilated. This is my 7th child. I noticed today that my cervix feels flatter than usual. (no lip) what does this mean? I have been having lots of contractions, cramps, and diarreah for two days.


Dear Cathy, it sounds like your cervix is more effaced or thinned out than before. This is progress and a good thing. Hang in there. Sounds like you’ll be having your babe in your arms before too long. ~Birthing blessings, Guinever


39. Jolene - August 6, 2007

I am 40 wks pregnant and on my last check-up 2 days ago I was 3cms dilated. 2 days previous to this I was 1.5cms dilated. On both occasions I was told I would deliver in 48hrs but I haven’t really had contractions that are very distinct or that I can time. I now have a sore back all the time and someone suggested it was back contractions. How long should it be before I fully dilate and what if I don’t feel the contractions they say I should be feeling?


Dear Jolene, I think that when active labor kicks in, you will know it and there will be no mistaking that you are in labor. In the meantime, just try to get as much rest as possible. Labor is coming soon. ~Birthing blessings, Guinever


40. Jolene - August 6, 2007

Apart from being dilated what else do I need to expect? Are the back pains significant? A nurse has told me, even though they want to admit me they will prob use Pitocin if I don’t feel contractions soon and they will also opt for an episiotomy as it is routine for first time pregnancies in the country I am living in (they are very dated with their ideologies of natural birth). I do not want to use any of these options if possible and therefore I need to stay at home as long as poss. As I have been dilating slowly does that mean that I could dilate all the way into transition stage without feeling big contractions? If so, how would I know when I should leave for the hosp (it is a 4 min drive away)? Thanks for all your help.


Dear Jolene, Anything is possible because all women feel contractions a little bit differently and cope with pain in different ways. BUT I really do doubt that you could get to transition without knowing or realizing it especially since this is your first baby. You didn’t tell me how often you are having these back pains. Yes, they’re probably contractions. Feeling them in your back means that either the baby is posterior or your cervix is posterior (pressing onto your back rather than downward). If these “back pains” are coming consistently from anywhere between 7 and 20 minutes apart, it is possible that you are in very early labor. IF you are in early labor now, when you are in active labor, there will be no mistaking it. Your contractions will be longer and stronger and closer together and you will probably start vocalizing. When you’re in active labor, your contractions will be very intense. You will be surprised at their strength. Give into your labor and don’t fight it. When you feel like you can’t handle labor any more at home and you would feel more comfortable in the hospital, then that’s the time to go.

I wouldn’t categorize a whole country as been dated for natural birth–it usually varies from one practitioner to another. Some doctors think it is necessary to do an episiotomy on all first-time moms, whereas, other doctors would evaluate each women’s situation as it arises and maybe only do the cut 5-10% of the time when they feel it is necessary. Please remember that you, the women, the patient, the consumer, the customer, can say no to any procedure or drug. But with saying that, I also encourage women to educate themselves, to understand procedures and interventions before refusing them because sometimes they’re necessary. Hope this makes sense. If you wait until you strong contractions before going to the hospital, you won’t be needing the pitocin. Let me know how it goes, Guinever

41. Christina - August 7, 2007

Just an update,
I went to the doctor today, I am 38 weeks and 3 days. I am 3 cm dilated and 70% effaced. My cervix is still posterior, but the baby is head down and -2. My blood pressure has been slightly elevated the last 2 weeks and the doctor thinks the baby weighs around 7 pounds. He is also concerned that I could need a c-section because I have a small pelvis. All this in account we are inducing labor Thurs morning. Do you think it could be a long labor? Or could it be pretty quick given I am already 3 cm and this is my second child? Thanks for all of your help Christina


Dear Christina, I have answered your question in a new article, can my baby too big for my pelvis?
You never said if your first birth was vaginal. If it was, then you have what is called a “proven pelvis,” and your doctor shouldn’t be saying your pelvis might be too small.
Let me know how everything goes! Blessings, Guinever

42. Jenn - August 7, 2007

I went to the doctor today im 39 1/2 weeks, and 1 cm dialated. i don’t think i passed the plug and havent had a contraction my due date is in 4 days and im so miserable. i dont sleep, can’t hardley walk at times and always in some sort of pain. What can i do to help get things going here? i’m very small and scared my baby will get to big for me to push out and they’ll force a c section on me. any advise?


Dear Jenn, please read the article, “can my baby be too big for my pelvis?” Please don’t let anyone “force” a c-section on you. Have confidence in your ability to give birth. Your body has nurtured this baby for nine months, and you can birth your baby! Be patient. It sounds like you’re doing well. I know that the last days of pregnancy are extremely uncomfortable especially in August! Even though you aren’t feeling any contractions, obviously something is happening since you’re already one centimeter. ~Blessings, Guinever

43. Morgan - August 8, 2007

I’m 38 weeks and just had a doctors appt the other day. She told me that I was 1 cm dilated. This is my first child, is it normal to be dilated this early. How will I know when I lost my mucus plug? Oh and where I live isn’t where I’m having my baby. Its about an hour and a half away to 4 hours (depending on traffic), I was wondering if you think you know when I should go and stay there…like in a hotel? Thanks!



Dear Morgan, It is not only normal to be dilated at 38 weeks, it’s very desirable. I wouldn’t worry too much about losing the mucous plug. It’s not an indicator that you’re in labor or that it’s going to start right away. Most women aren’t even aware that they’ve lost it because it comes out gradually as just some extra discharge at the end of pregnancy. When it comes out whole, it usually just come out while you’re on the toilet. As far as when to go to the hotel during labor, how about when you are sure you are in labor and aren’t comfortable staying at home. Going to a hotel close to the hospital is a very good idea. ~Blessings, Guinever

44. LISA - August 8, 2007

My early sonogram said my EDD is Sept 9- My 19 week sonogram said Sept 20th- Which is considered more accurate -the earlier or later one?

I am 35 weeks (according to the earlier estimate) and having brown tinged bloody show- Does this mean I will be going into labor soon? I am feeling more naseaus the past two days and have had slight headaches similar to how I felt in my first trimester. Is this a sign of impending labor I wonder?

And an inquiry about taking a castor oil cocktail at 37 weeks….what if my EDD is off by 2 weeks? Won’t my body just reject the castor oil affect if it’s not ready for labor or do I put my baby in jeopardy by possibly going earlier? Not really sure I am brave enough to go this route- what are your thoughts?


Dear Lisa, A first trimester (you didn’t say if yours was 13 weeks and under) sonogram can be considered accurate for dating the pregnancy. My understanding of castor oil is that it will not work if you and the baby aren’t ready, but I think that 35 weeks and 37 weeks along are both a little early for trying to bring the baby on. Relax. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! A little bit of bloody show is not necessarily a sign of impending labor. Yes, its a sign that you are starting to dilate, but the beginnings of effacement and dilation can take weeks for some women. Thanks so much for your encouraging words you wrote on my about me page.~Blessings, Guinever

45. caroline - August 9, 2007

Hi, i just spent 2 days in hospital and finally discharged myself cause i was getting fed up. I went in with what felt like contractions about 10 mins apart. They examined me and said i was 1 cm dialated and -3 station. They didn’t say anything about effaced. Then i had a few stronger more painful contraction feelings and they examined me again and i am still only 1cm dialated but baby is now -2 station and midwife wrote past or post effaced (i think thats what it says). This is my second child but first one was c section and i never went into labour at all as she was breech. I am still getting tightenings and pain but not as regular as they were. Please can you give me any answers or any insight as to when you think i will go established labour… Thankyou.

Dear Caroline, I really don’t know when you will go into labor. Reading my article, how long does it take the cervix to dilate 5 centimeters? might give you a little clarification. It is common and normal to experience several bouts of pre-labor like you just experienced before “real” labor establishes itself. Your baby descending is progress so do not be discouraged. Blessings, Guinever

46. Donna - August 9, 2007

Hi, i have just turned 36 weeks and my EDD is Sept.3. I went to the dr. today and she said that i am not even dilated, or effacement hasn’t even started either. This is my third child, my 1st child came 2 weeks late-long labor she weighed 7lbs 6oz, my 2nd one was 1 week late and i had to be induced-water broke at 3:30pm had her at 11:40pm that nite so 8 hrs isn’t bad she was
8lbs 2oz. I did alot of walking in the beginning of this pregnancy but now its a little bit harder to walk, my back starts to hurt. I have seen articles that talk about having a lot of sex to start the labor, would that also help me? Is there any way to get the effacement and dialation going? I don’t want to be induced with this baby and i’m afraid that i might so i want to try anything to make it go naturally. I don’t feel any contractions either but the baby is in the face down position. I heard that since this is my 3rd baby that labor might be less than the 2nd one, i hope so kinda. This will be my 1st boy too and the dr said that everything seems fine, my husband seems to think that since my 2nd was 8lbs that he will be bigger-but i hope not that big. I just want this baby out soon and i want to speed things up a little, some of the questions on here the women are already dilated. And i don’t even know how to check to see if i am dilated let alone know how to find the cervix. So any advice would be helpful. Thank-you


Dear Donna, Relax. Relax. Relax. Put your mind at ease.You are fine! You are only 36 weeks along and your pregnancies in the past have been 41 and 42 weeks. Your babies weren’t big, either. Some women’s natural gestation is longer than 40 weeks. I really like what Dr. Bradley says about estimated due dates. He gives the example of an apple tree. Most apples are ready and ripe at the same time. There are a few that are ready to be picked earlier than most and a few apples hang on the tree much longer than the others. If you were to pick these late ripening apples too soon, they wouldn’t be good to eat. Likewise, most women’s babies are ready at 40 weeks gestation, some are ready 36-38 weeks and others just aren’t ready until 41, 42, even 44 weeks.

Do not worry. Don’t think you have to check yourself. Most women don’t. Frankly, I don’t know anyone personally who does except a couple nurses…Again, just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. You’re right, walking, having sex are beneficial and will help to efface and dilate the cervix. ~Blessings, Guinever

47. Amy - August 10, 2007

Hi, you mentioned walking and having sex to get labor going and to have the cervix start dialating. Are these the only methods to get the cervix to dialate or are there others? I would of course, check with my OB first before trying, but she and I discussed trying it in the next few weeks maybe and I was just curious what it would involve. I am pg with twins. Thanks!

Dear Amy, Your doctor may have been referring to chemical inductions in the hospital. This would include ripening the cervix if the cervix isn’t ready and then using pitocin. Here are a few natural ways to induce labor. ~blessings, Guinever

48. summer - August 10, 2007

i am 36 weeks and 5 days i have lost my plug am 1cm dilated have been having contractions 7 minutes apart for 4 days i have went to the hospital on 2 occasions last one being yesterday they made me walk around for 1 hour the pain was unbearable while walking but i had no change in dilation….so they sent me home and told me to walk and come back when contractions where 4 to 5 minutes apart for 2 hours and they had to be as painful as when i was walking all the time…i have been having pre term labor since march i have also spent 2 days in the hospital 3 weeks ago for pre term….they say they will not stop it this time but it does not seem to be going anywhere….what can i do i am in so much pain my whole stomach my pelvis and in my lower back. i have been walking….was thinking about the castor oil….any help would be appreciated.

Dear Summer, It sounds like you’re pretty miserable. You’re still several weeks away from your estimated due date. I think maybe you should rest for a day or two. Forget about walking and trying to induce labor in other ways. Take some nice long, warm, baths. Maybe go swimming. Watch a movie. Do some other things that you enjoy. When you are feeling good, then you can start the walking again. I’m sorry you’re in so much pain. You might try other positions during your contractions to ease the pain besides walking. Try getting on your hand and knees, on your knees leaning over the couch or chair, lying on your side. ~blessings, Guinever

49. Sarah - August 11, 2007

I’m 33 weeks 4 days with my 2nd son and today have been having watery leakage. It smells like salt water. I have also had some pretty bad cervical pain all day although it comes and goes. . .should I go in or not? I had watery leakage like this last week and it hasn’t gone away but when I went in last week they said it was probably just normal vaginal secretions. But also last week it had no smell and now it smells salty. What should I do? My last baby came 6 weeks early and I only had 10 weeks between his birth and this pregnancy so my dr. says I’m at higher risk for preterm birth this time. I just don’t want to go to the hospital and be told it’s nothing and be made to feel like an idiot but don’t want to put my baby at risk, either.

Dear Sarah, yes, call your doctor or go to the hospital. You are early and if at all possible, you shouldn’t give birth now because your baby’s lungs are not fully developed. They’ll probably want to give you steroids to help the baby’s lungs. Occasionally, the bags of water can repair itself and you can continue with the pregnancy, but with your cervical pain, you may either be in labor or possibly have an infection if your water has been broken this whole time. Are you running a fever? That would be a sign of infection. Like I said before, call your doctor. I think you need to do it right away because you’re only 33 1/2 weeks along. ~blessings, Guinever

50. Deborah De - August 12, 2007

I am 25 weeks pregnant with my fourth child. I went to the Dr because I was feeling a lot of pressure in my vagina. She said my cervix was soft and I was a finger tip dialated. I had an internal ultrasound that said my cervix was 3.5, which compares to 3.7 2 1/2 weeks ago. I am on bed rest and scared. The Dr said that shortening of the cervix is normal as pregnancy continues. But at .1 per week? At that rate I would be at 2.2 by 36 weeks. Does this sound right? I didn’t mention that my 3rd child was born at 36.5 weeks when she kicked and broke my water.

Dear Deborah De, I really don’t know the specifics of cervical length measurements. I would definitely follow your doctor’s advice and do bed rest, and take it easy for awhile. To relieve the pressure that you’re experiencing, it helps to get on your knees while resting your head on a pillow. You want to get your head down low and your butt up high to get the weight of the baby off your cervix. This position also helps with back pain. ~blessings, Guinever

51. amanda - August 12, 2007

hey I know I haven’t written in a little bit. On Tuesday, they are inducing me because I’m not dialated at all. I’m going into the hospital at 7:30 in the morning. About how long can it take?

Dear Amanda, If you’re not dilated at all like you say, it can take a very long time–at least 24 hours. Usually, they would have you come in the night before and you give you a suppository to help soften the cervix. Then in the morning, they would start pitocin to get your contractions going after your cervix is soft. They keep upping the dosage and it can be hard for you and/or the baby to tolerate it. Have you read my other articles on dilation? You can find the links on my sidebar or at the bottom of the above article. Reading those will give you an idea of how long labor might take.

I personally don’t like inductions unless the health of the mother or baby would be in jeopardy should the pregnancy continue. (for example, if the mother has high blood pressure or pre-eclampsia) Please realize that 50% of inductions on first time mothers lead to cesarean. This is because they are just done before the baby is ready to be born and the doctors don’t give you enough time to dilate.

Take this little quiz to see if your induction will be successful. If the quiz results show that the induction will not work, why don’t you consider asking your doctor if you can wait. Also ask your doctor what would happen if you waited for labor to begin on its own. ~blessings, Guinever

52. amanda - August 12, 2007

ok I forgot to tell u im 42 weeks does that matter I have a doctors app tomorrow morning do you think she will give me anything to soften my cervix being i’m getting induced on tuesday morning

Dear Amanda, I didn’t realize that you were so far along in your pregnancy. I just went and re-read your past comments. On July 27th, you told me that you were 1cm dilated and starting to thin out. This is different than your previous comment this evening when you said you were being induced because you weren’t dilated at all. I also see that this is your 2nd baby and your first labor was only 4 1/2 hours. I have a feeling that your induction that your will be successful afterall. I have no idea what your doctor will do. Having sex will help to soften the cervix. ~Guinever

53. ry'smommy - August 13, 2007

Hi~ I am 30 weeks and have been on weekly progesterone shots for 8 weeks because I had preterm labor at 33.8 weeks which ultimately resulted in a preterm delivery at 36.8 weeks due to SROM with my last baby. I went in last week for my checkup and mentioned the contractions I had been having over the weekend. My dr. did an exam (no effacing or dilation). She said she wanted to examine me when I received my next shot which was today. When she examined me, she said my cervix was 50% effaced and it felt like my cervix was closed, but wanted to examine me again next week when I get my weekly shot. Also, I have to start taking albuterol to keep the contractions at bay for now. My question is…how concerned should I be that I am 50% effaced and experiencing contractions considering my previous preterm labor and preterm delivery history?

I think you should just take the wait and see approach and try to put your mind at ease and not do anything that might encourage labor. Ask your doctor lots of questions at your next appointment. There’s just really no way to know at this point if you will have your baby early again. Just because you went pre-term previously does not mean you will do it again. Of course, it’s possible, but it sounds like you’re working with your doctor to try and avoid it this time. ~blessings, Guinever

54. Jolene - August 14, 2007

Hi there,just thought I’d give you an update. I went into labour on friday morning. I started having contractions at 6am. At 8 I went to the hospital and was 6-7cms dilated by then. It was a long day as I had strong contractions throughout until 6:10 when I became fully dilated and had a little girl at 7:10. I wrote out a birth plan and as per your advice I asked them to ask my consent for anything. They obliged although they thought it ver y strange as people here do not do those sort of things. I did end up having 2 sedatives as my contractions were 4 mins apart approx for a long time and although they didnt make the pain less they did help me relax in between. I also had a very small episiotomy as I was having difficulty pushing the baby’s head out but that may have been because I was pushing incorrectly for a while. I am glad its all over to be honest…but I am also glad that I was informed before I went. A birth plan is an excellent to guide those around you to what you would like. Thanks for all your help and this room was a great source. Lastly, my episiotomy - I tried looking at my stitches (using a mirror) but I couldn’t see any. Also how long is the healing process where I can sit normally again?

Dear Jolene, Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl. How wonderful!

Your stitches will dissolve and you should be feeling better every day. Hot baths help. ~blessings, Guinever

55. Stephanie - August 14, 2007

Guinever~ I had my appt. today I am pregnant with twins in my 34th week and they said my cervix is soft. What does that mean to have a soft cervix?

Stephanie, softening is the first thing the cervix will do before it starts to efface or dilate. Normally, the cervix is hard. As pregnancy progresses, it softens.
~Guinever

56. Sarah - August 15, 2007

I’m due Sept 2nd…It’s my second pregnancy. I’ve been 1 cm dilated for 3 weeks. With my first, I lost my mucus plug and 2 days later my water broke. Is it typical to have less mucus loss with second pregnancies. Or will loss of mucus NOT be a benchmark I can depend on?

Dear Sarah, I would agree with your last statement. The amount of mucous and the timing of its appearance has no bearing on when your labor will start. Additionally, each woman’s labor is unique. ~Guinever

57. Lauren - August 15, 2007

Guinever,

I wanted to let you know that I went into labor on Tuesday, August 7, and delivered our son on August 8! The process was approximately 15 hours long, and involved no pain medication of any kind. The experience exceeded our expectations. Our precious boy is healthy and happy. Thanks again for your help in figuring things out during my prodromal labor process.

Dear Lauren, Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy and letting me know how things went. ~blessings, Guinever

58. shanea - August 16, 2007

hello,

I’m 30 weeks pregnant and my cervix is 60% softened? Is this normal? what should i do about this and if i go in to early labor will the baby be alright? thank you

Shanea, what did your doctor say about it being softened? Was he concerned? If you were to have your baby now, your baby would need to be in the NICU for several weeks. Ask yourself why did you have a vaginal exam done in the first place at this point in your pregnancy? A softened cervix does not equal labor or pre-term labor. ~Guinever

59. Simi - August 16, 2007

Hi Guinever,

Am 36 weeks and 5 days. My doc told me am -3 station, no dilation and 30% effaced. The issue is that the baby is already 8pds 5 oz (based on ultrasound). Am concerned about going full term because the baby could get to 10 or 11pds. My question is - is there anything i can do to slow down my baby’s growth? Also, how seriously should I look into early inductions. Am really nervous about the baby getting so baby. Does such a large weight lead to obesity later in life?

Dear Simi, ultrasound is not accurate when it comes to ascertaining the weight of the baby. I am not in favor of early inductions. The baby will come when he and you are ready. Has your doctor said an induction would be in your best interest? Do you have diabetes (not gestational)? A mother’s diabetes can affect the baby’s weight and usually an induction is done because the baby can get too big. (again this would be if you had Type I or II diabetes, not gestational diabetes) Do not try to slow down your baby’s growth. You need to be eating healthy for both you and your baby. The baby’s weight at birth has nothing to do with adult weight. ~Guinever

60. Donna - August 17, 2007

I went to the drs. the other day and she said i was about 1 cm dialated. But she also told me that i came back positive for the Group B Strep and that i would need antibiotics when i am in labor. Well now i am kinda scared cause my last 2 i was negative on that test and my boyfriend thinks that i went out and cheated on him cause i have that and he doesn’t want to catch anything but i told him he can’t and that i never slept with anyone that some woman carry this bacteria but he don’t believe me. Any suggestions to tell him? And she scheduled an induction for Sept. 10th if i haven’t had him yet. But now i have to go out of town for a gathering and what if i go into labor then? Would i have to tell them about the Group B? And i know that no hospital can refuse someone, i don’t think if i was in active labor that would tell me to drive to my own hospital. In a way i kinda want to deliver out of town, they seem to have better hospital i heard–LOL.

Donna, first of all, group B strep is not a sexually transmitted disease. All your boyfriend has to do is look it up for himself on the internet or ask your doctor if he doesn’t believe you. It is never too late to switch doctors during your pregnancy if you don’t like the care you’re getting. Instead of hoping that you’ll go into labor when you’re in a different town, why don’t you plan to do deliver in the hospital of your choice. With that said, I’m assuming you’re pretty advanced in your pregnancy since your doctor has said she wants to induce you on September 10. If you go into labor and have to go to a different hospital, they will probably get your records from your doctor’s office. Why don’t you want to tell them about the group B strep? It is a question that they will definitely ask you because it is normal obstetrical practice that all women be tested. Ask yourself why you would want to keep it from the hospital. Have you done your own research and determined that this would be in the best interest for you and your baby? ~blessings, Guinever

61. Simi - August 17, 2007

Thx for your response. I don’t have gestational diabetes or diabetes of any kind. If the baby gets to 9-10lbs at 39 wks, would you advise doing an elective c section? Are there any serious risks involved in doing that?

Dear Simi, I NEVER ADVISE ELECTIVE c-sections. Cesarean is major abdominal surgery and should never be done electively. Having a cesarean puts you at much greater risks for having problems during future pregnancies. Recovery is longer and much more painful than a vaginal birth. It’s a lot harder to take care of your baby because you are healing from surgery. There better be a damn good medical reason for your doctors to cut you open.

Please explore my website, read my births stories and other birth stores. Be inspired. Have confidence. You can birth your baby no matter how big he is. And nine or ten pounds, although bigger than “average” is not too big. I even know women who have birthed 11 and 12 pound babies. Please read this article about a woman’s ability to give birth. ~blessings, Guinever

62. shanea - August 17, 2007

I had an ultrasound done to make sure everything is going ok. After that i saw the doctor and he said that the ultrasound showed that my cervix was thinning so he did a vaginal exam and told me that it 60%. All he told me to stay off my feet as much as i can and he will see me in 3 weeks.

63. Sarah - August 20, 2007

Due September 2nd, still dilated 1 cm, by my Dr.’s finger. Last night, for a couple hours, I had lots of irregular contractions…some lasting over a minute and some not. They seemed much different than regular BH contractions. My belly was REALLY “peaked” and the pressure was pretty intense. Baby was very active throughout, and head was a whole lot lower than ever before! Discomfort was bad. Only position, comfortable was just standing. I squatted with each contraction. I got pretty tired after a couple hours of this…so I laid down and ended up going to sleep. Woke up a lot to pee, and I slept through some more contractions. Now this morning. baby is higher again! UGGGG….What now? I’m just tired and frustrated and want my baby in my arms instead of knocking at my “door”!

Dear Sarah, Hang in there. Your pregnancy is almost over and you will have your baby in your arms very soon. Don’t be discouraged about baby’s position. ~birthing blessings, Guinever

64. Paula - August 20, 2007

Guinever,

I have a question in regards to your fifth baby delivery…u mentioned that around 5:30 or so early labour started, was it just out of the blue, or did u have any signs earlier in the day? Im 4 plus dilated, and duedate is today. I have been feeling crampy and my pelvic area is constant aches….just curious as to how u felt earlier in the day before u knew labour had commenced for sure.

Dear Paula, I woke up with a backache. I took it easy all day. I was trying to get in the mindset of having a baby. I listened to music, took a long, relaxing bath. At 5:30 I starting taking cimicifuga and caulophyllum which are the homeopathic forms of black and blue cohoshes. ~blessings, Guinever

65. Myrna - August 20, 2007

Hello!
I am pregnant with my third child and am 2 days away from my estimated delivery date (8/22). I have had really bad contractions for the last 4 days, but they only come on from 1:30am to about 6:00am. On sunday I had then all morning until about 2:00pm. They were about 5 minutes apart and suddenly they went away. It started again this morning, but nothing else has happened. My question is if I go past the 22nd how soon after is it safe to induce. Is there anything I can do to try and get the show on the way?
Thanks!

Dear Myrna, “being safe to induce” as you put it is not contingent on a certain date but rather of your readiness for birth. Some women are ready at 36 weeks, some not until 41 or 42 weeks. It all depends on your cervix and baby’s position. ~birthing blessings, Guinever

66. Donna - August 20, 2007

I didn’t know where to post this question. Anyways i need to ask this to ease my boyfriends mind. I am 38 weeks, i am due sept.3 if baby don’t come by that date then i will be induced on the 10th and i tested positive for the Group B Strep, so i have started to walk and my boyfriend gets so mad at me saying that if i go into labor or my water breaks and he doesn’t get there in time and misses this birth then he will be very upset. He lives like an hour away from me. I told him that even if my water breaks or i start to have contractions that the baby isn’t gonna slide right out. I could only be 2 or 4 cm dilated. Plus from what i was told that when i go into labor they have to start me on the antibiotics for the Group B Strep, so does that mean right when i start to have contractions or when the contractions are like 5-10 mins apart? With my 2nd child i was induced at 8:00am, water broke at 3:30pm, had her at 11:30pm, so he seems to think that this one will be alot faster.

Dear Donna, it is unlikely that your boyfriend will miss the birth if you call him once you’re in labor and he can leave right away. Possible, but unlikely. As far as knowing when to go to the hospital for your antibiotics, the timing can be tricky! On the one hand, you want to labor at home as long as possible, and on the other hand, you want to get there long enough before the birth to get in your 2 rounds of antibiotics or they’ll do it after the birth which means you and the baby being separated. I would just wait until I was sure I was in labor. You can ask your doctor for clarification and see when he wants you to go to the hospital. ~Guinever

67. Amy - August 21, 2007

I am 38 weeks pregnant with my second child. I just went to the hospital thinking I was in labor only to find out I had a UTI. I have been on med’s for 4 days and my back still hurts and I’m still having painful contractions. They are not as close as they were but I am still worried I thought the med’s would help by now. I’m 1 cm dilated and at 0 station. Do I need to call my doctor?

If you are worried, calling your doctor might be a good idea. The meds are for the UTI, right–not to stop contractions. You’re far enough along in your pregnancy where having the baby now would be ok, and it sounds like you’re having some rounds of pre-labor. ~blessings, Guinever

68. Melissa - August 23, 2007

Hi

I am 34 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first child. I have been put on complete bedrest for two weeks because I am 100 % effaced, and 2cm dilated. Does this mean that I will have the baby sooner than my due date which is 9/30? I go for non-stress tests every week, and according the the test I am having contractions, but I do not feel anything. One day I felt like I was going to start my period, but that was 5 days ago, and I haven’t felt like that since. They also did an internal ultrasound because the baby’s head is so far down that they couldn’t measure it on a regular ultrasound. Would the baby be mature enough if delivered now?

Dear Melissa, just because you’re just beginning to dilate now does not guarantee that you will have your baby early. You could have your baby soon or you may even go past your due date. By thirty-six weeks, lung development is usually good (girls are sometimes ok at 35 weeks). The last month of pregnancy, the baby puts on fat and weight. Take it easy for a couple weeks like your doctor advised and then you’ll be good to go. ~blessings, Guinever

69. Paula - August 23, 2007

Guinever,

I have a question to ask of you about the kohoshes…I have here a bottle of the black kohosh, I am wondering if it is necessary to use both black and blue, I couldnt seem to find the blue unless i need to look for it under its homeopathic name of course. Would it be of any danger to only use the black?

Dear Paula, it won’t be any danger to only use one of the cohoshes. My midwife told me that the blue and black work in harmony together. They each serve a different function: one gets the contractions going and the other keeps them going, so they’re both necessary. FYI, the tinctures didn’t work for me, but the homeopathics did. The liquids do work for many women…hope this helps, Guinever

70. Kelly - August 23, 2007

Hi I am 30 weeks pregnant on my fourth child. I lost my mucus plug 4 days ago I now have a lot of pressure down below. I have already had two children at 35 weeks. Does this mean i will go early?

Dear Kelly, you may go early but losing your plug and having pressure is no guarantee that you will go early. Have you talked with your medical care provider yet? I think that would be a good idea since you’re only 30 weeks along. ~Guinever

71. jessica cerullo - August 23, 2007

how do you speed up labor? i am 2cm. and 40 weeks heeeeeelp

Dear Jessica, be patient… Are you in the summer heat? Try to stay cool and relax. Walk when you can. Eat spicy food. Have sex. These are a few things that encourage labor to start. ~blessings, Guinever

72. Dannielle - August 24, 2007

Is it safe to have a VBAC ten-eleven months after having a c-section (low, horizontal incision)? I am 35 and a half weeks and dilated 3, and I can’t feel my contractions because I have back labor. My dr. was planning on a repeat c-section for this one, but told me if I’m dilated over 6 I will have an attempted VBAC. I would LOVE to have this baby naturally but am wondering if my short time between births increases my risk of complications with a VBAC.

Dear Dannielle, Please go to the International Cesarean Awareness Network website. They have lots of information there. I do know that for optimal healing after a cesarean, you should wait 2 years before getting pregnant and obviously you didn’t do that. I think it is great that your doctor is going to give you a trial of labor instead of automatically scheduling a cesarean. One thing to note is that pitocin (or any other drug or herb that induces contractions) would not be advisable for you. Pitocin has been known to cause uterine rupture even in those who have never had uterine surgery. I think intermittent monitoring during active labor would be a good idea for you just to keep a close eye on the baby. Also, they can check the thickness of your scar with ultrasound to make sure there aren’t any thin spots that would be more likely to tear or rupture. blessings, Guinever

73. Nancy - August 25, 2007

Hi Guinever,

I just lost my mucous plug last night and I have read one of its functions is to prevent infections. I have tested positive for Strep B. Should I go to the hospital now?

Dear Nancy, there is no reason to go to the hospital until you are having contractions and in active labor. If your water has not broken, then your bags of water are still protecting the baby from infection. ~hope this helps, Guinever

74. Paula - August 25, 2007

My doctor has never used the term stations in regards to my baby. But is it possible for the baby to be resting on the cervix even if the cervix is still a little high? All I know is that I am dilated to 4cm, very soft, cervix is still high, and that my bag of waters is pressed right up to the cervix. The only reason i am concerned is because of induction occurring if she doesn’t come on her own in the next week, and I worry if she’s high up that her cord may prolapse as did happen with my first daughter.

If your baby is dropped or engaged, then cord prolapse will not happen. The head is wedged in your pelvis and the cord could not slip out past the head. If your baby is still high and floating, there’s a slim chance that the cord could come out with the water (I know this isn’t a slim chance to you since you’ve already experienced it). What was the circumstance of your cord prolapse? Did it happen on its own or did the docs break your water? Cord prolapse usually happens in women who have had several children and their abdominal muscles are very lax and the baby is sideways or floating and the water breaks and out comes the cord. OR it happens when doctors break the water, knowing full-well that it could happen because the baby is too high.

I hope I can put your mind at ease here. At 4 cm dilated, active labor can and will start any day. And yes, your cervix can be high with the baby up next to it. I suspect that your baby is right there with the bags of water–usually if the bag is “pressing” against the cervix, the head is right there doing the pressing. Does that make sense? But for your peace of mind, why don’t you tell your doc of your fear of cord prolapse and ask him/her the likelihood of that happening this time.

Paula, I want to let you know that I will have limited access to the computer for a couple weeks, but I will definitely answer any additional questions that you have as soon as I can. Please let me know how your birth goes. ~blessings, Guinever

75. Amanda - August 26, 2007

Hi, I will be 34 weeks tomorrow. This morning I woke up to very intense pain on the upper right side of my abdomen. The pain has decreased and is not constant, but it come back off and on. I would also like to add that the area were the pain is– is very tender to touch!

Amanda, this does not sound like contractions and definitely warrants a call to your doctor’s office especially if you are having bleeding (which you didn’t mention, I know, but I thought I would in case it starts.) ~Guinever

76. Paula - August 26, 2007

Thank you so much, and yes u have helped to put my mind at ease. I am trying to sit around on my labour ball, and remain upright as much as I can to assist her in dropping down. With my first one, I was induced, and waters were broken it was a HUGE nightmare ending in emergency c-section, that’s why I have so many concerns. I have done a lot more research since my first….I am not a fan of induction by drug myself. I even switched hospitals and doctors after my first child. They didn’t offer a membrane sweep or anything for my first. And I was 2 cm dilated….they just went straight to pitocin. With my others a membrane strip was done and labour commenced within 48 hours. We did try it with this one, but no luck this time. Although he said my cervix was high, and it may not have been a full sweep. She’ll come I know she will…lol. I will let you know! Thanks so much for your positive feedback.

Paula, hope you can get lots of rest before your little one comes. I wish for you a nice, gentle birth. ~birthing blessings, Guinever

77. Regina Pifer - August 28, 2007

hi I am 33wks and 3 days with twins. At my appointment today i was 90 effaced and 0 diliated. i am also five foot one. do you think i will have them soon

Dear Regina, like I tell everyone, I can’t predict when you will go into labor. Your cervix has begun effacing because your babies are getting bigger and adding pressure to make it soften. Hopefully, you’ll be pregnant for a few more weeks so your babies will have optimal lung development. ~blessings, Guinever

78. Michelle - August 28, 2007

I met with a different doctor in my doc’s practice today as I have to meet them all throughout my pregnancy. She was very nice, but I have a couple of concerns. I had been having and have posted about brown discharge on my pantyliners after I have been up and around walking, moving, etc. quite a bit. I’ve been to the doctors twice about this. Both times they told me to take it easy - my placenta was low lying at first. Today, I went in and met with the doctor and not the nurse practitioner and she told me that discharge that sits until the end of the day will turn brown and there is nothing to worry about. She also told me that my placenta is not lying low over my cervix anymore. She did check me internally anyway to be sure and make me feel more comfortable. She found no blood, only normal pregnancy discharge, etc. She then felt my cervix and said that part of it felt just a tad bit soft, but everything else felt completely firm and as it should be. She told me she didn’t see any reason to worry. She then asked if DH and I had been having intercourse and I said no because we’ve been worried. She said, “Well, you might not want to either just to be safe.” So, at first was so relieved b/c she said everything was normal, h/b was good, no bleeding, just normal discharge, etc. But, now that I’m home and analyzing it of course, I have started to worry about the cervix thing and the no sex thing. I am only b/w 21-22 weeks (21 according to me, and 22 according to them), so I am nervous. I also had a missed m/c with my last/first pregnancy. Please be honest - am I just overreacting? Do you think all is well? I know your cervix does start to soften a bit as you get closer to labor, but how early is that? I still have a ways to go…

Sorry so long - please help!

Thanks,
Michelle

Dear Michelle, it is normal for some women to have discharge during their entire pregnancy. But with that said, I don’t think you are over-reacting. I’m not sure that they can tell where your placenta is just by doing an internal exam; I think they need to verify it with an ultrasound. But if you do have placenta previa, that doctor’s exam probably would have caused some bleeding. You are a bit early for your cervix to be softening. Follow your doctor’s advice and take it easy. ~blessings, Guinever

79. kat - August 29, 2007

Hi Guinever:
I am 36 weeks pregnant with my first child and just had my exam this morning. I have not had any contractions, just some round ligament pain and pressure bearing down. After my internal exam, the midwife said that I was 2 cm dilated already and she recommended that I take it easy this week.
However, is this normal? Should I worry about going into labor soon?

Dear Kat, I think you should relax and follow your midwife’s advice and take it easy. The pressure bearing down feeling has probably been contractions. You might go into labor soon or it may not be for another 5 weeks. It is totally normal to dilate a little then walk around 2 cm or more for several weeks. ~blessings, Guinever

80. Amber - August 31, 2007

I am 33 1/2 weeks pregnant and my EDD is October 16th, This is my third baby. My first came at 36 weeks my second came really early between 33 and 34 weeks. I had some very strong pains this week and when I went for my OB appt she checked me and said I was 1 centimeter dilated. However, I am not yet effacing. Since then I have had more BH with more pain and tons of pressure in my lower pelvis and back. I am not wanting to have another preemie, my second only wieghed 4lb. 4oz but lungs were fully developed and did not have to stay in the NICU. What should I do, I also work full time and am on my feet all day in sales. Any ideas would be helpful. I know the baby has dropped because a couple weeks ago I was measuring larger then gestational age and now I am measuring smaller and my belly has gone from higher to lower. HELP ME.

Dear Amber, I think you should consider getting off your feet which means stop working for the rest of your pregnancy. Have you discussed this with your doctor? I would take it easy. Not complete bedrest or anything–but working sales full-time is probably not a good idea for you with pre-term laor history and what you have been experiencing recently. Let me know how it goes. ~blessings, Guinever

81. Emily - September 1, 2007

I am 39 wks and 3 days, and I went to the doctor the doctor last week, because I thought I had a bladder infection. Everything was fine. I had to see a different doctor, and the doctor that checked me said I was 2 centimeters dilated. I had an appointment later in the week with yet a different doctor, and he said I wasn’t dilated at all. I went to the doctor a few days ago, because I was having a lot of pain. The doctor I saw said I still wasn’t dilated. I had my regular appointment yesterday, and the doctor who checked me said I was 3cm dilated. I am having contractions, so I am very confused about this. Is it normal for different doctors to have a different idea of how much the cervix is dilated?

Dear Emily, it is normal to experience backwards dilation. If the baby is putting pressure on your cervix and you’ve been having contractions you could be a 3, and then if the pressure lets up, you could close up a bit. Although it is normal for different doctors to come up with a different number when checking your cervix, what you’re describing does sound a little bit out of the ordinary–no dilation versus a 3. ~blessings, Guinever

82. stephanie - September 4, 2007

i am 41 weeks pregnant i am 2 to 3 centimeters dilated and 50% effaced and my baby is at 0 stage what does this mean and can i take castor oil to make me go into labor?

Dear Stephanie, Please read my article what does 2 centimeters dilated mean? for the answer to your questions. Did you ask your doctor about taking castor oil? It will work if your body is ready for labor. ~Guinever

83. Alyssa - September 4, 2007

Hi,

im 29 1/2 weeks pregnant and i went into emergency for a really bad headache and they said i was having contractions 15 minutes apart but i didn’t feel any of them, then when they checked to see if i was dilated they said i was 1/4 of a CM and they sent me home after a few hours. Today i went to my DR and she said i’m not dilated at all but my cervix is softening…this is my first child and i don’t understand how one day i’m dilated and the next i’m not????

Dear Alyssa, I think that 1/4 of a centimeter dilated could be considered not dilated by another doctor. Usually, dilation is measured in full centimeters, not fractions. To be only a quarter of a centimeter dilated might be described by another doctor as merely softened. Put your mind at ease. Take it easy and enjoy your pregnant during your last trimester. ~blessings, Guinever

84. shanea - September 5, 2007

i went to the doctor today and he said my cervix is at 70% and i was dilated to a tip and half -2 what does -2 mean?

Dear Shanea, the -2 refers to station. The station of the baby is where your baby is in your pelvis. Zero station is “engaged” in your pelvis and positive numbers would be lower into your pelvis past your ischial spines (the pointy bones in your pelvis used as the reference in determining baby’s station.) At negative 2, your baby has not “dropped.” Your baby is high and floating. ~blessings, Guinever

85. Amber - September 5, 2007

The doctor says now that I am 2 centimeters dilated and my cervix is starting to thin. I am curious if you could tell me being that I am now 34 weeks along with a history of early babies, how long it may take once dilated to 2. I want to keep baby in as long as I can, but I am having a lot of pain in my tailbone area and pelvic pressure, the babies head is very low also. What should I do and what should I expect, am in sales and work on my feet all day. Please help

Dear Amber, Take it easy! Try to not be on your feet all day. Do pelvic rocks and get on all fours to ease the pain in your tailbone. Please read my other articles on dilation for the answer to your questions. With your history, you may have your baby tonight or it may not be for many weeks…. ~blessings, Guinever

86. brietta - September 5, 2007

I am 36.5 weeks pregnant and at my appointment yesterday had an exam because I’ve been passing mucus (clear, though) and having contractions. My doctor told me I’m 1-2cm dilated, 80% effaced, and that baby is at 0 station. I’ve been having constant, dull cramps in my upper abdomen for the past couple days, too.

In my previous pregnancies, I’ve gone anywhere from 3-8 days overdue, so I haven’t even started getting things ready around the house for a new baby. I guess my question is if you think I should start preparing because there might be a chance I’ll not go 40+ weeks this time like I’ve been assuming.

Dear Brietta, I think that there is an equal chance of you going early or going past your due date. Women can have several weeks of contractions here and there that start the cervix thinning and dilating and bring the baby lower. You can walk around dilated for weeks before the birth of your baby. Think back to your other pregnancies. Was there a feeling the last day or two of your pregnancy that you just had to have the baby–that you just couldn’t be pregnant anymore? This is different than just wishing you weren’t pregnant anymore. To answer your question about preparing for baby: yes, go ahead and prepare. But I have a feeling that when the birth of your baby is very close, you’ll get a surge of energy and a pressing feeling that you HAVE to get all the stuff done, but now you’re just wondering if you should and you don’t have the nesting instinct yet which precedes labor. ~blessings, Guinever

87. Dawn LaRae - September 5, 2007

I am 34 weeks. To start I have been having horrible back pain, which I didn’t experience with my son, and I fear that my baby is posterior. Can I go to a chiropractor this late (and have them be able to do anything). Also, I know that you can not feel yourself dialating per se, however I have been feeling the surges of pain in my cervical area (if that makes sense) I am having contractions, but nothing is getting longer, stronger, or closer together. I am still working as a food server, though I am not lifting heavy objects I am on my feet and on the go constantly for roughly 4+ hours 5 days a week. Am I pushing myself into a pre-term labor? My son was a very fast labor (although at term) and I don’t want something to happen that I won;t be able to stop in time.
Also, considering my labor was as fast as it was (my water broke at 330pm, I felt my first contraction (but the nurses said I was having them) at 530pm and I started pushing at just before 10pm and he was born at 1153pm.) am I looking at a quicker labor than that, assuming she is not posterior????
Thank you before hand for all your advice!!

Your baby could be posterior since you are experiencing back pain. But the pain could also be because you’re on your feet all day and the baby is growing and putting a strain on your back. Doing pelvic rock/cat exercises several times a day can help ease the pain. It’s not too late to go to a chiropractor for help. Make sure, though, that the doctor is trained and has experience in working with pregnant ladies. Although your baby isn’t breech, I might check to see if the doc knows the Webster technique (helpful in turning a breech baby). If he does, then you know he’s used to working with pregnant women.

Usually, second labors are quicker than a first labor so your labor may not be as long as last time. But again, there are no guarantees to the time frame. You didn’t have a super fast labor last time. You still had lots of time to get to the hospital! ~blessings, Guinever

88. brietta - September 6, 2007

Guinever,

A big part of me is dying to get things ready and I have been feeling non-stop as though this baby is going to come any day (definitely not just wishful thinking), but another part of me tells myself that I always go late and that I’ll just get myself worn out and ready for nothing and that getting things ready will only get my hopes up and I shouldn’t bother.

I definitely have been feeling as though I have to have the baby– I’ve had insomnia, contractions, and cramps too much in the past week to not be overwhelmed by the idea of going through a whole month like this. But just because I feel like that doesn’t necessarily mean anything, does it?

Thanks.

Dear Brietta, I understand how you’re feeling. I had contractions for weeks with my 3rd, 4th and 5th pregnancies. (have you read my birth stories–you can find them on the sidebar or by going to my welcome page.) I walked around 5 cm dilated for over a week with my most recent pregnancy and went 12 days “overdue.” I had never reached my due date with